I've been gone for about a good minute and I have a pretty good excuse. My life has gone from socially impaired to socially impaired with a social life. Being in a relationship definitely has a lot of unwritten rules that I didn't know about. If you didn't notice from my previous posts, I've been in "relationships" but ones that couldn't count as they didn't last long and I knew they were heading nowhere fast.
This one, I knew instantly that this one is here to stay, plus he's English with an adorable accent. And with that, comes meeting people. I honestly thought it'd kind of be like Sex and the City where Big honestly didn't meet Carrie's friends for years and come to think of it, he never met her family. What happened to them anyway? Did anybody on that show have family members other than Steve and Charlotte's exes? Not entirely sure.
So, I was under this false illusion that I was probably never going to meet his friends and family but things changed over this week. I had to meet his family. If you've ever met the family of your boyfriend or girlfriend, you realize it's nerve wrecking. Everyone knows that if the family members don't like you, your ass is gone. You can go from in a serious relationship to single after meeting the family.
Thankfully mine went well after doing some hardcore Googling and interviewing people who have been in my situation, but if you're not into researching like I am then you're in luck, I can help with The Do's and Don'ts to Meeting the Family.
1. DO ask your partner questions about the meeting. Do they know you're coming? What's the family like? So on and so forth.
2. DON'T dress like you came off the streets. This is pretty much an interview and you should dress like you're about to go on one. Maybe dress like you're going to church. Tone done your makeup and accessories, look like a decent person. I'm not saying how you dress makes you a decent person, but let's be real over here, you're meeting the family. Everything is important down to your shoes.
3. DO make sure his family members know about you and things about you ESPECIALLY if you're in an interracial relationship. Your partner may think his family members won't care, he's probably right, but do you want to take the chance of showing up and the family members have the 'WTF is going on' face? No? Me either. Make sure he/she tells them.
4. DO bring something like wine or chocolate if you're having dinner at their house.
5. DO help around the house if you're staying over at their house too. You want to make a good impression as I said before, the wrong moves can make you single in a heartbeat.
6. DON'T lie about what you do or who you are. These aren't people you meet on the street, these are people who are important to your partner so in turn, they're kind of important to you. Lying to them is no Bueno because honestly lying takes a lot of effort. With lying you gotta keep up with the lies and with lying you probably have to write down the lies to keep up with the previous lies. Just be truthful, yo.
7. DON'T drink. Listen, I know you want to drink, I hear you. If something could call for a drink it would be meeting the parents, but I suggest you don't and for that matter, don't even cuss. My parents would slap the shit out of me if I cussed in front of them (figuratively speaking), so, pay his parents the same respect.
8. DON'T be all over your boyfriend/girlfriend. A little kiss and hand holding is great, but um, not one person wants to see you guys pretty much have sex in public. Keep that mess in the bedroom plus in his/her parents' eyes, their kid is probably a virgin. The parents probably know the kid isn't, but they like to believe it. Let them believe that myth (if it is one).
9. DO try to be engaging. Nobody says you have to be a stellar conversationalist. It's a nerve wracking situation, but do at least try to talk to them. Try to be friendly, even if you're not.
10. DO be yourself! Your boyfriend/girlfriend loves or likes you for who you are. So, don't try to be anything but yourself. It kind of goes hand and hand with lying, but sometimes spelling things out for people helps out in the long run.
Hopefully this will help you impress the family and if they don't like you after you tried then forget it. There are some people who won't like you no matter how hard you try. Be respectful and continue on your way.